Thursday, 17 January 2019

[Sách] KHI BẠN CHỈ CÓ MỘT MÌNH - chicken soup


KHI BẠN CHỈ CÓ MỘT MÌNH
Là một quyển sách chia sẻ tình yêu, thử thách và niềm vui riêng của những người độc thân. Dù độc thân là do quyết định của bạn hay do hoàn cảnh đưa đẩy, thì mười ba câu chuyện của cuốn sách này giúp bạn không hề cô đơn.
Sự khát khao cháy bỏng của người độc thân mong muốn có được mối quan hệ tốt đệp bền vững được chia sẻ qua các câu chuyện: Buổi Bowling, David và Lily đến với nhau như thế nào?, Hy vọng được thắp sáng nơi trái tim ngự trị, Cơ hội trong đời.
Cuốn sách tiếp thêm sức mạnh cho người bố/ mẹ đơn thân tiếp tục trên chặng đường đầy gian khó, được tác giả truyền tải qua các câu chuyện như: Từng ngày một, Vòng tay, Vượt quá khả năng, Thông điệp trong chiếc tách, Tình yêu cũng như một cánh tay gãy, Giáng sinh đến.
Và, các câu chuyện về nhiều hoàn cảnh khác nhau từ nam nữ thanh niên, phụ nữ ngoài năm mươi hay ngoài tám mươi cô đơn trong tuổi già như: Thị lực 10/10, Xưởng vẽ của bà góa phụ.
Các bạn đón đọc để cảm nhận sự chia sẻ đầy yêu thương từ bộ chuyện này nhé!

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[Sách] TƯ DUY NHƯ EINSTEIN - How to think like Einstein


TƯ DUY NHƯ EINSTEIN
Mình đọc cuốn sách này trong những ngày cuối năm có chút vội vã. Vội vã trong cả việc cầm cuốn sách để đọc và cả vội vã trong việc hoàn thành cuốn sách trước khi về Việt Nam. Nhưng không phải vì vội vã mà mình đọc dối đâu nha. Mình nghĩ mình hiểu được ý tác giả và nội dung cuốn sách.
Cuốn sách gồm 11 chương, 2 phần phụ lục và có độ dày 322 trang. Mỗi ngày mình đọc hai chương vào hai thời điểm 6h00 sáng và 10h00 tối. Khép cuốn sách, điều đọng lại trong mình đó chính là vững tin hơn những điều mình đang làm để phá vỡ nguyên tắc không mang lại sự ích lợi và niềm vui cho mình.
Một số phần trong cuốn sách mình thích:
Chương 1 và 2: viết về Einstein phá bỏ nguyên tắc – định kiến.
Chương 3: xác định đúng vấn đề
Ở thời Einstein, có nhiều nhà khoa học cũng nghiên cứu về Thuyết tương đối nhưng họ cố gắng giải quyết một vấn đề theo hướng khác. Cuối cùng, họ không thành công còn ngược lại Einstein lại thành công. Tại sao thế? Tại vì Einstein xác định đúng vấn đề.
Làm sao để xác định đúng vấn đề? Hãy viết nó ra và phân tích. Nếu vấn đề quá bé, quá thô sơ dễ thực hiện thì việc thực hiện hay không cũng không thành vấn đề. Nếu vấn đề quá lớn vượt tầm với thì dễ nản chí bỏ cuộc. Vì thế, phải xác định đúng vấn đề. Gặp phải vấn đề quá bé, quá thô sơ hãy mở rộng vấn đề nâng vấn đề khó hơn. Nhưng gặp phải vấn đề quá lớn hãy chi tiết để tìm vấn đề phù hợp hơn.
Làm sao để biết vấn đề phù hợp? Tác giả gợi ý nếu bạn trả lời là CÓ cho câu hỏi sau đây thì vấn đề của bạn là phù hợp. Câu hỏi đó là “Vấn đề có hấp dẫn và vui vẻ không?”
Chương 4: Khái niệm Chris
Christopher Columbus là nhà thám hiểm vĩ đại thế kỷ XV. Ông có ý tưởng điên rồi là đi tàu về hướng Tây để tới châu Á. Ở thế kỷ XV đó là điều không thể. Nhưng nhờ ý tưởng điên rồ này mà ông đã khám phá ra châu Mỹ. Ngày nay, những ý tưởng điên rồ được gọi là những ý tưởng mang dáng dấp “khái niệm Chris”.
Ý tưởng mang “khái niệm Chris” là những ý tưởng không phải là những giải pháp mà bạn đang tìm kiếm nhưng nó tiềm ẩn những khả năng đưa bạn đến một giải pháp tuyệt vời. Những khái niệm Chris rất có giá trị, càng nhiều càng tốt. Hãy viết nó ra, đừng để trong đầu vì những khái niệm Chris rất dễ bị lãng quên.
Bạn có nghe “người duy nhất không bao giờ mắc sai lầm là người không làm bất cứ việc gì” (Dore Roosevelt). Cho nên, việc bạn mắc sai lầm nhiều lần trong công việc, học tập và cuộc sống có nghĩa là bạn đang vận động tìm kiếm một giải pháp tốt hơn! Do đó, hãy ghi lại tất cả những ý tưởng “khái niệm Chris”, đừng để nó tan biến theo thời gian. Ghi lại – rút kinh nghiệm và phát triển. Hãy nhớ “mọi ý tưởng của bạn đều là nguyên liệu thô cho các giải pháp tương lai”.
Chương 7: Phá vỡ nguyên tắc
Những nguyên tắc – quy luật thật sự hữu ích. Chúng ta nên ton trọng khi đó là điều hợp đạo lý. Nhưng hãy nhớ là các quy luật không phải là chân lý, nó chỉ ghi lại những sự thật mà thôi. Có những lúc cần phải phá vỡ các quy luật kể cả các quy luật được tôn vinh. Mạnh dạn, sáng tạo đừng đi theo lối mòn!
Chương 8: Giao phối trí tuệ. Trí tuệ A x trí tuệ B => trí tuệ C. Hãy cứ giao phối càng nhiều càng tốt, càng khác biệt càng cần thiết.
Chương 9: Tránh tai họa. Đi ngược quy luật thì thường không được số đông ủng hộ. Nên hãy hiểu như thế để không bị tổn thương và để tâm phiền muộn. Hãy hào phóng, chia sẻ ý tưởng và chia sẻ lợi ích với cấp trên – đồng nghiệp và đồng đội.
Chương 10: Thay đổi môi trường. Thay đổi công việc, thay đổi nơi ở, thay đổi trường học thì cần thời gian dài nhưng thay đổi giải trí thì có thể thực hiện nhanh – hãy thử thay đổi nó. Thay đổi không gian môi trường đối tượng giải trí để có cơ hội quan sát bằng mắt cái mới và cảm nhận cái mới bằng trái tim. Đây chính là gia vị cho bạn sáng tạo và có nhiều cảm hứng ý tưởng giải quyết vấn đề.
Chương 11: Hãy tư duy như Einstein mỗi ngày. Chương này tác giả trình bày nhiều phương pháp để rèn luyện tư duy như Einstein mỗi ngày. Mình bàn luận về một trong số các phương pháp đó chính là phương pháp đặt câu hỏi. Nếu bạn là học sinh/ sinh viên mỗi ngày đến lớp trong giờ học hãy cố gắng đặt một câu hỏi. Đừng sợ bạn bè chê cười, thầy cô cho điểm kém. Hãy nỗ lực đặt ít nhất một câu hỏi mỗi giờ học – sẽ giúp não bạn phát triển hơn và thu thập nhiều kiến thức hữu ích hơn.
Lời cuối, hãy nhớ chúng ta có hai bán cầu não, hãy để cho chúng làm việc cùng nhau. Khi bán cầu não phải bí phương pháp thì biết đâu lúc đó bán cầu não trái đã có cách rồi đấy. Và, hãy dành cho bộ óc của bạn một chế độ ăn đa dạng và điều độ.

Cảm ơn em đã cho chị  mượn cuốn sách hay nhé!
Mita




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Friday, 11 January 2019

[Sách] LƯỢC SỬ THỜI GIAN - A BRIEF HISTORY OF TIME


Cuốn sách LƯỢC SỬ THỜI GIAN của Stephen Hawking
Ngay trong lúc tôi đang đi tìm câu trả lời vũ trụ là gì, vũ trụ vốn có sẵn hay vũ trụ bắt đầu từ đâu, hành tinh của chúng ta có thời điểm kết thúc hay không, liệu kiếp sau và nhiều kiếp sau nữa có tồn tại khi hành tinh hủy diệt hay không? Có thể, bạn cho rằng những câu hỏi trên là ngớ ngẫn, nhưng trong tôi điều gì đó thôi thúc tìm câu trả lời. Bạn tôi, anh ấy để lại tôi cuốn sách LƯỢC SỬ THỜI GIAN của tác giả Stephen Hawking. Lật những trang đầu tiên cuốn sách, lối dẫn dắt của tác giả đã cuốn hút tôi thực sự. Ở góc độ nào đó, cuốn sách đã cũ (xuất bản năm 1988) và đương nhiên những kiến thức vật lý học vũ trụ cũng chưa cập nhập trong suốt ba mươi năm vừa qua tuy nhiên, cuốn sách thật sự cho tôi cái nhìn hoàn toàn mới về vũ trụ. Khép cuốn sách lại, nhiều câu hỏi vẫn còn bỏ dỡ, nhưng chất lượng câu hỏi có lẽ đã được nâng lên hơn trước khi đọc nó.
Cuốn sách này đề cập nhiều nhất về Thượng đế, về sự không có mặt của Thượng Đế. Einstein đã đặt câu hỏi “liệu Thượng Đế có sự lựa chọn nào trong việc tạo ra vũ trụ này hay không?” thì Hawking đã dấn thân đi tìm câu trả lời đó – đó chính là sự không có mặt của Thượng Đế. Cuốn sách được trình bày trong 12 chương, dài 284 trang, không dễ đọc và không dễ hiểu nhưng khá thú vị. Khép cuốn sách lại rồi, nhưng mức độ hiểu và khả năng thảo luận về cuốn sách thật không dễ trả lời. Đọng lại sau đó chính là cái nhìn về vũ trụ trong tôi có chút chuyển dịch. Và. Tôi, đang chờ đợi những cuốn sách tương tự tiếp theo để tìm hiểu xem liệu chúng ta có thể tin được rằng chúng ta sống trong một vũ trụ hoàn toàn tự duy trì, không có bắt đầu cũng không có kết thúc hay không?
Cảm ơn tác giả Stephen Hawking, cảm ơn những người phiên dịch cuốn sách – một cuốn sách khó nhằn để dịch. Cảm ơn anh bạn của tôi đã để lại cho cuốn sách thú vị này. Cảm ơn tất cả các bạn Read it & Do it đã đọc sách cùng tôi!
11.1.2019
Cú Mita
LƯỢC SỬ THỜI GIAN - STEPHEN HAWKING



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Thursday, 10 January 2019

[Sách] How David and Lily got together? -David và Lily đã đến với nhau như thế nào?

This is the story of how David and Lily got together, or at least, what they always told us. We didn't learn the truth till many years later.
Some years ago a good family moved into the third-floor apartment of the tenement where we lived in the Bronx. David was the son, and he was going to medical school. He was also an avid reader, so he spent most of his free time in the library.
The librarian there was a pretty, soft-spoken young woman named Lily. We kids all loved her. If we couldn't find a book, she would stop whatever she was doing, smile at us warmly and launch a search to find it for us. She was a hard worker.
She also secretly admired our new neighbor, David. Whenever he entered the small library, Lily's eyes lit up and observed his wandering path through the stacks of books. She never struck up a conversation with him, though. She was much too shy, and in those days, a woman didn't talk to a stranger without a formal introduction.
One evening, as Lily was closing up the library, her assistant bent down near the desk to retrieve an unopened envelop off the floor. She showed it to Lily, and they noted that it was sent from a major city hospital.
"It looks so important", the assistant said. "Some poor person is probably looking for it frantically. It must have fallen out of his pocket or book".
Lily glanced at the address of the recipient and was surprised to see it was for the building right next to hers. She took the letter so she could drop it by the man's apartment on her way home.
She turned out the lights, looked up the library and hurried home, where she quickly set down her bags. Clutching the envelope, she ran across the way, entered the front lobby next door and scanned the mailboxes. She found a "Gordon", the same last name listed on the envelope, and rang the bell for that department.

"Who's there?", called out a woman's voice over the scratchy intercom.
'I'm the librarian", Lily answered. "We found a letter on the library floor addressed to a David Gordon. Does the name mean anything to you? The letter looks important".
After a pause, the voice replied: "Yes. Could you bring it up for me, Apartment B3? I fell a few weeks ago and can't walk the stairs".
Lily walked up the three flights of stairs and was greeted at the door by a sweet, older woman who was learning on a crutch.
"Oh, thank you so much", she said. "As you see, I really can't walk the stairs".
Lily smiled. "I understand. Well, here's the letter. Is David Gordon your husband?"
"Oh, no", she answered. "That's my son. We were wondering where the letter went". She looked Lily up and down. "You say you found the letter at the library?"
"Yes", said Lily. "I'm the librarian there, but I live in the building next to you, so it was no trouble to bring you the letter".
'Well, look at us standing here like strangers", the woman said, smiling brightly. "Come and sit for a moment and have some tea. Please".
As she motioned Lily to a chair, the lady talked about the letter. 'When I get mail for my son, I always put it on the kitchen table so he can find it when he comes home. This letter was important, so I struck it in his book. You see, he is going to medical school to be a specialist", she said proudly.
Just then, the door opened, and in walked her son, David. Upon seeing that he was the young man she had admired so long, Lily felt her heart beat faster. His mother excitedly explained to him what had happened to the letter.
David looked at Lily in astonishment. "Gosh! You're from library. Thank you! I was looking high and low for he letter". He turned to his mother. "You see, I was accepted to the hospital's medical program".
Then he turned back to Lily and smiled shyly. "Thanks again, Miss, errrr, I didn't get your name".
"Lily", she said, smiling her warmest smile. Her heart was still pounding, and she felt sure her cheeks was flushed.
Meanwhile, Mrs. Gordon was hobbling around, setting the table for tea and cookies. "Sit! Sit!" she urged the young couple.
"Have you decided which branch of medicine you want to specialize in?" Lily asked David.
"Cardiology", David answered, still smiling. "And this is the letter that wilt start me on my career. I was really worried when I hadn't heard from the hospital. I was considering going out west someplace, but I'd much rather stay at this hospital, here in the city".
And then, out of the blue, David blurted: "Would you care to go to a movie with me Saturday night?"
Before Lily could catch her breath, Mrs, Gordon grabbed her hand and said, "Oh, yes, Lily! Please say yes!"
Lily laughed. "I'd love to!".
And so began Lily and David's life together.
But now for the whole story. After they'd been married twenty-five years, he told us the truth about the letter. David was a cardiovascular specialist by then, and his dear Lily, the mother of their three children, was sitting by his side as he told us.
You see, David wasn't that avid a reader, as it turns out. He just wanted to see that pretty young librarian. He told his mother about the girl at the library, hut he was shy and didn't know how to approach her. His mother devised a scheme. Every time David went to the library, he was to drop an envelope addressed to himself on the floor. David's mother hoped Lily would retrieve it for him, call him over to the desk and give him a chance to strike up a conversation. So David dutifully dropped a letter each time he visited the library, but each time, someone would see the envelope fluttering to the floor and rush to reclaim it for him. 'Oh, sir' he'd hear someone cry out, bu when he turned, it was never Lily.
On that day, David waited till no one was left in the building but Lily and her assistant. Once again, he dropped his letter by the desk. The next day, he hoped, he could come back and ask Lily if she had found an envelope with his name on it. The plan worked far better than he imagined when Lily showed up in person to deliver the letter.
While David was telling this story, his beautiful wife Lily began laughing hysterically.
"David", she said, when she caught her breath. "You didn't seal the envelope very well. We opened it at the library. I saw that there was nothing but a blank piece of paper inside. I was dying to figure out what you were up to, so I played along. David, you were a terrible actor!" She turned her twinkling eyes to her husband's.
"But, oh, David! I loved you so!"
And that is how David and Lily really got together.
--Arnold Fine--
(Following Chicken Soup for the Single's Soul)

--Some words--
hysterically
reclaim
flutter
devise
devise a scheme
strike up
dutifully
grab (v)
blurt (v)
hobble (v)
astonishment (n)
clutch (v)
frantically (adv)

avid (a)
stack of
struck up

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Cell Viability Assay - MTT Assay


{English below}
 Thử nghiệm MTT là gì?
Thử nghiệm MTT là một thử nghiệm so màu đánh giá sự hoạt động của tế bào, [1] xác định số lượng tế bào sống hiện diện.
Nguyên tắc phản ứng là gì?
Enzyme oxidoreductase tế bào NAD(P)H phụ thuộc tồn tại phần lớn trong cytosolic của tế bào sống. Những enzyme oxidoreductase tế bào NAD(P)H-phụ thuộc thể hiện số lượng tế bào sống hiện diện, những enzyme này có thể làm giảm màu thuốc nhuộm MTT thành dạng formanzan không hòa tan.
Hình phản ứng của thuốc nhuộm MTT tạo thành tủa formazan

 Có những loại thuốc nhuộm nào? 
Các thuốc nhuộm thông thường: XTT, MTS, WST. Thuốc thử MTT rất nhạy cảm với ánh sáng. WST-1 không thấm được màng tế bào, sự khử xảy ra bên ngoài tế bào thông qua sự vận chuyển điện tử màng plasma [2].

  • MTT – một tetrazole màu vàng, bị khử thành formazan màu tím (dạng tủa) trong tế bào sống [3]. Sau đó, sử dụng DMSO (hoặc một số chất khác) để hòa tan thành dung dịch màu trước khi đo mức độ hấp thụ màu. Độ hấp thụ dung dịch này có để định lượng bằng cách đo ở một bước song nhất định bằng máy quang phổ (thường 500-600nm). Độ hấp thụ phụ thuộc vào dung môi hòa tan.
  • XTT – (2,3-bis-(2-methoxyl-4-nitro-5-sulfophenyl)-2H-tetrazolium-5-carboxanilile) có thể thay thế MTT, loại thuốc thử này có tính nhạy cảm cao hơn MTT và sử dụng đơn giản hơn. Sản phẩm của phản ứng này có thể hòa tan trong nước trước khi đo độ hấp thụ. 
  • MST (3-(45-dimethylthiazol-2-yl)-5-(3-carboxymethoxyphenyl)-2-(4-sulfophenyl)-2H-tetrazolium), trong sự có mặt của phenazine methosulfate (PMS) bị khử tạo thành sản phẩm tan trong dung môi muối đệm phosphate, và hấp thu ở bước sóng tối đa 490 nm.
  • WST (muối tetrazolium tan trong nước) là một loạt các thuốc nhuộm hòa tan trong nước. Sản phẩm formazan của thuốc nhuộm này có thể đọc trực tiếp không cần thông qua bước hòa tan trước khi đọc. WST cho tín hiệu hiệu quả hơn MTT. Ngoài ra, WST còn giảm độc tính cho tế bào (không giống như MTT thấm vào tế bào và formazan tích lũy bên trong các tế bào) [4]. 
Thuốc nhuộm WST từ màu hồng chuyển màu cam (hình thực nghiệm) 

-English-
What is MTT assay? 
MTT assay is coloricmetric assay for vadiating cell metabolic activity [1], make out the number of viable cells present. 
MTT assay or viability assay or CCK-8 assay are different names as the same function and the same protocol.
 What is the principle of MTT assay? 
NAD(P)H-dependent oxidoreductase enzymes is largely assumed in the cytosolic compartment of the cell. These enzymes are able to reduce the tetrazolium dye MTT 3-(4,5-dimethylthiazol-2-yl)-2,5-diphenyltetrazolium bromide to insoluble formazan.
MTT reaction produces formazan product

How many kinds of dyes?  
The tetrazolium dye includes XTT, MTS, WST. They are very sensitive with light. Specially, WST-1 is cell-impermeable, the reduction occurs outside the cell via plasma membrane electron transport [2].
  • MTT- yellow tetrazole, is reduced to purple formazan in living cells [3]. Then, using DMSO to soluble formazan product into a colored solution. Measuring this colored solution at a certain wavelength by spectrophotometer. The degree of light absorption depends on the solvent.
  • XTT (2,3-bis-(2-methoxy-4-nitrp-5-sulfophenyl)-2H-tetrazolium-5-carboxanilide) is able to replace MTT, highly sensitivity and dynamic range. The formed formazan dye is water-soluble, avoiding a final solubilization step.
  • MST (3-(45-dimethylthiazol-2-yl)-5-(3-carboxymethoxyphenyl)-2-(4-sulfophenyl)-2H-tetrazolium), in present of phenazine methosulfate (PMS), produces a formazan product has an absorbance maximum at 490 nm in phosphate-buffered saline.
  • WST (water-soluble tetrazolium salts) is water-soluble dye for MTT assays. WST assay can be read directly (unlike MTT that need a solubilization step), give a more effective signal than MTT, decrease toxicity to cells (unlike cell-permeable MTT, and its insoluble formazan that accumulate inside cells).
Pink WST produced orange formazan (true experiment)

---References--

1. Stockert JC, Horobin RW, Colombo LL, and Blázquez-Castro A. Tetrazolium salts and formazan products in Cell Biology: Viability assessment, fluorescence imaging, and labeling perspectives. Acta Histochemica 120: 159-167 (2018).
 2. Berridge MV, Herst PM , and Tan AS. Tetrazolium dyes as tools in cell biology: new insights into their cellular reduction. Biotechnology Annual Review, 11: 127-152 (2005).
3. Mosmann, Tim, Rapid colirimetric assay for cellular growth and survival: application to proliferation and cytotoxicity assays, Journal of Immunological Methods, 65 (1-2): 55-63 (1983).



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Tuesday, 8 January 2019

[Sách] Bowled over - Buổi bowling

"I know it's last minute," Carl said timidly when I answered the phone, "but I, um, need a date for tonight". A date? Carl had never once mentioned the "D" word to me before, and it let me speechless. "I hope you're available," he added.
I glanced at the clock. It was after four. How many other numbers had he dialed first? He probably thought, maybe I'll try to call Jan. She's usually home on a Saturday night.
"It's my company party - a bowling party", he said. He needs a date for bowling? "Okay, sure", I replied.
When I hung up the phone my thoughts drifted back to two years ago when Carl first joined our church singles group. He wasn't what you'd call a hunk and didn't have a sparkling personality, but there was an instant tug at my heart. It wasn't his steel blue eyes, the premature gray hair or warm smile that attracted me, but an obvious strength of character. I wanted to know this man.
After the singles meetings, a few of us would meander over to the coffee shop. I'd linger around, making sure I found myself alone with Carl. One night we talked until the late hours, conferring about everything from childhoods to politics to the Bible.
'You have firm options, and you're not afraid to state them", he told me. 'I like that". Feeling as flimsy as a soggy piece of toast, I gazed longingly at him, but I received only congenial smiles in return.
Every week my heart fluttered at his warm "Hello". I know he must be attracted to me, too, but his guy guards his heart like a sentry over the crown jewels.
A few months later at our group's annual hoedown, Carl and I square-danced together most of the night, twirling, tripping and laughing like teenagers.
He offered to drive me home after we cleaned up. "I have a view of the valley from my desk", I said, nudging Carl. "Come and see". As we stood close together, watching the city lights flicker, I thought my anxious heart was about to explode like a pan of sizzling popcorn. This is the perfect moment to sweep me into his arms. Then, abruptly, he said, "I've really got to go now".
"He's driving me crazy", I later told my best friend, Jeanne.
"Could you misinterpreting his attention, just a bit, Jan? He's still healing from a recent divorce. He's got to test the single waters and see which way to steer his boat".
"But, but..." I was about to counter with He likes to be with me, and we have so much in common, and doesn't he realize I'm perfect for him? What was the matter with me? I'd been single again for ten years. A mature, professional woman, a singles group leader, no a schoolgirl dizzy with her first crush.
Jeanne piped in. "Earth to Jan - remember that seminar on dating and healthy relationships? The tricky little "I word?".
Infatuation, the chemistry that turns the sensible into silly. Yes, and it's the mystery, the uncertainty that keep the fires of infatuation going.
"I must be imaging things that just aren't there".
"You're in love with the idea of falling in love".
I suppressed some tears. "I feel like a fool".
"Let it go, Jan. The timing is wrong", Jeanne urged.
Yes, and if Carl was the right man for me, it would happen in God's time with no plotting my part. I asked myself, do I care about Carl enough to want the best for him, even if it is never me? I wrestled with it all night. How is it possible to have a platonic relationship while a medley of feelings dances on my heart?
"Give it to God?", Jeanne said. She was right, but why do fantasies feel so comfortable, like a soft, cuddly lamb's-wool rug in front of a warm fire? It was hard to let go, but even harder to spark a romance with only on flame.
Carl was a popular guy in our group, friendly with everybody, and in the next year he had his share of women chasing him. He did have some dates, but none with me. He was in his single heyday. Finally content to be his pal and cheerleader, life went back to normal.
But then came the telephone call, and that "D" word. I raked over my closet trying to find the perfect bowling outfit. Oh, here I go again, feeling all giddy. After all this time? Get a grip, girl.
We met for dinner at Garcia's, Mexican restaurant near the bowling lanes, and before the fajitas stopped sizzling, the atmosphere shifted. This was not our usual "Let's grab a bite to eat". This was a lingering-over-the-meal, his-eyes-riveted-on-me, soaking-in-my-every-word-as-if-I-hadn't-existed-before kind of thing. This was a real date! While I didn't make any strikes later at the bowling alley, there was a telltale twinkle in his eyes that showed me I'd made a big strike with him. Bowled over, my emotional alarm clock started to go off.
Jeanne was half asleep when she picked up the phone at midnight. "What are you so afraid of?".
"That old floating-on-a-cloud feeling. I don't want to go back there".
"I like you better sane, myself".
There weeks went by and no telephone call from Carl. It figures. He's probably back at Garcia's with somebody else. That's fine. At least I got a nice dinner out of it.
It was time for our singles Saturday social: a trip a San Francisco, a bike ride in Golden Gate Park and an optional dinner on the bay. We rendezvoused at the grocery store parking lot.
"Love Boy just showed up", Jeanne announced as Carl began to unload his bike from the back of his car. I bolstered myself up. Be mildly sociable, but aloof. Let him come to you. After biking along the beachfront, ten of us changed into dinner clothes and boarded a blue-and-gold double-decker boat. As it headed out in the choppy waters, we all stood on the lower deck, watching the blazing sun slip under the Golden Gate Bridge, coloring the sky like a dream. I was spellbound by the lights emerging from the bridge. I barely noticed the music starting to signal dinner being served. I saw Jeanne and the group go below, and suddenly he deck was empty. Except for me and Carl.
A Cold blast of see breeze made me shiver. Carl slid his long arms around my shoulders. This was no begin hug. Suddenly, I froze like a petrified tree.
Gently, he lifted my chin and looked down at me. He's going to kiss me. In the most romantic place in the world he's going to kiss me. Wait a minute. I have a few question ... But I closed my eyes, slipped my arms around his neck and just let it happen.
'I knew you wanted me to do that long ago", he finally said, "But I couldn't. I was nowhere near ready for a committed relationship, and it wouldn't have been fair. I needed time - to become the right man for a woman like you".
Eleven months later we were married. During our wedding vows, Carl said, "Thank you for waiting for me, Jan". When it was my turn, I shared something I'd tucked away in my heart. It was from one of those dating seminars: "Love is a friendship that has caught fire".
-Jan Coleman-
(rewrite from Chicken Soup for the Single's Soul)

Some words:

rendezvous (v)
rake over (v)
outfit (n)
giddy
grip
heyday
pal
cheerleader
fantasy
cuddly
rug
spark
medley (n)
platonic (a)
wrestle (v)
no plotting my part: bất chấp những toan tính của tôi
urge (v)
infatuation
sensible
mystery
pipe in (v)
dizzy
misinterpret (v)
heal (v)
steer (v)
drive (v)
nudge (v)
anxious heart
explode (v)
sizzling popcorn
sweep s.o. into s.th.
abruptly (adv)
guard
sentry
crown
jewel
flimsy
soggy
gaze
congenial (a)
meander (v)
linger (v)
hunk (n)
tug at (v)
sparking personality
drift (v)
hung up (v)
glance (v)
timidly
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Monday, 7 January 2019

[Sách] Seeing10/10 - THỊ LỰC 10/10

Springtime in New York City - my first apartment, a good-paying job and a great-looking girlfriend. It couldn't get much better than that. I had my life figured out. In fact, I felt so good, so magnanimous, that I decided to share my happiness with others. Helping someone less fortunate seemed the noble thing to do. Following a friend's example, I volunteered with the Lighthouse for the Blind.
The friendly volunteers explained they needed help with an outreach program for the elderly - recently blinded shut-ins. Telling myself I'd bring a little joy to some poor, unfortunate senior citizen, I agreed.
The night before my first meeting with the shut-in, my girlfriend and I had a major fight. She stormed out; I sulked. The next morning, I struggled to open my eyes. I had spent most of the night reliving the fight. I was cranky. I dragged myself out of bed to do my volunteer work, but my generous mood had evaporated. I didn't want to visit an old blind man.
Charlie lived in a rough section of Manhattan: the lowest section of the Lower East Side. Dodging delirious winos, occasionally crossing the street to avoid desperate-looking drug addicts, I trudged toward our first meeting. I tried to imagine what Charlie looked like. The coordinator said he was old. At twenty-three, as far as I was concerned, anyone over sixty-five was at death's door. He was definitely over sixty-five, I'd been told. Probably senile, too, I thought to myself.
Well, I'd wasted this Saturday morning, I thought, but I can call the Lighthouse early Monday morning and take myself off the list of volunteers. I climbed the crumbling steps to Charlie's run-down building and began the ascent to his sixth-floor apartment. No elevator.
Shuffling sounds signaled Charlie's approach; a face appeared from behind the graffiti-covered apartment door. I gasped. Cataract-clouded eyes, wispy white hair. He was ancient. Charlie wasn't just sixty-five; he was sixty-five years older than I was. He was eighty-eight.
He ushered me into his surprisingly tidy apartment. I couldn't help admitting it looked neater than mine, and I wasn't blind. Sitting on a slightly musty sofa, Charlie told me how he'd lost his vision and wife of more than fifty years, all in the previous ten months. He told me the past without a trace of self-pity.
I tried to imagine the tragedy of his life, thinking that I'd be suicidal if I were blind and alone. Charlie interrupted my thoughts. He was telling me how fortunate he'd been to have such a wonderful marriage for so long. He smiled at me gently, as if sensing my discomfort.
That first day, Charlie and I visited his barber and walked - more than he had walked since his wife's funeral. As we walked, Charlie talked. All of his friends and relatives were gone, with the exception of a son in California. He told me tales of his younger days at sea, his service in World War I and his wonderful wife. Time slipped by. My agreed-upon one-hour visit stretched to three hours.Charlie was a great storyteller, but he was more than that. No matter what life event he shared, he never complained. Never. He was always able to find something positive to say about what had happened to him.
Eventually, Charlie needed a nap, and I left him. As I left, I thought that Charlie's eyes may have been fogged over, but his perspective was 10/10. Just spending a day with him corrected my distorted view of life. I saw all my problems plainly, and my self-pity vanished as I headed home.
Visits with Charlie became the high point of my week; his stories always put things in perspective for me. It's been a long time since I've had to struggle to wake up on a Saturday morning. Life's full of surprises, Charlie often said on our visits. It was true, I knew; no event was as surprising as my reluctant visit that Saturday morning many years ago, when an aging blind man opened my eyes.
-Bill Asenjo-
(From Chicken Soup for the Single's Soul)
Some vocabularies:
magnanimous (a)
fortunate (n)
noble (a)
outreach program (phr.)
shut-in (n)
storm out (v)
sulk (v)
struggle (v)
relive = re + live (v)
cranky (a)
drag s.o. out of s.th to do ...
evaporate (v)
dodging delirious winos (phr.)
desperate-looking
addict (n)
trudge (v)
coordinator (n)
senile (a)
take s.o. off (phr.)
crumble
run-down building
gasp (v)
wispy (a)
usher (v)
neat (a)
musty (a)
tragedy (n)
suicidal (a)
barber (n)
funeral (n)
tale (n)
slip by (v)
agreed-upon
fog over (v)
perspective (a)
vanish (v)
reluctant (a)

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